So, he popped the question, you\\\'ve decided on a date but he thinks it’s way too early to begin planning and his ardor for the event itself seems to have cooled off not to mention his hands off approach to wedding decision making. It’s not that he’s not mad about marrying you, he is after all a great guy.

Getting your fiance to participate in the wedding plans may take more than just handing him a piece of paper with a list of things he’s meant to do. Most men understand that the wedding is their soon to be wife’s day, however don\'t just let him be, involve him. Make it known to him how important his input is to your wedding. Though he may not tell the difference between wedding dresses, you can let him do the "man stuff’. You see, planning weddings is not a job that can be done by one person, the stress loads of planning a wedding could wear you down quite easily.

One way you could get him involved is to depute areas of interest to him. Tasks that may be of interest to him may include selecting the DJ or even letting him set up the carriage, either a limo or other transport arrangement. Other tasks such as selecting wedding colors or floral arrangements are a definite no no. The outcome may be disastrous to say the least.

Another probable area when roping in a reluctant wedding planner is to ask him to help you choose vendors and styles. If you do, make a point of narrowing down the options first, he is less likely to feel overwhelmed, and more likely to feel like an important part of the process.

In the event you ask him for his opinion, take it seriously and don\\\'t second guess his every step. You could also weave his family heritage and traditions into the wedding ceremony. Chances are that you would be surprised by the level of interest he would develop as he discovers his family history and you would find your wedding consecutively enriched.

If you find your fiance uncomfortable doing "art director" tasks, then you could consider "production staff" tasks for him. He could make payments, handle the rentals, pick up food or decor or reserve the hotels and reception.

Spend some time alone talking about anything but the wedding. Watch a movie or a baseball game this will help in reminding you both why you decided to get married in the first place. Finally remember that your loved one will open his eyes to the wonder of a wedding by the time the actual ceremony arrives. He will have a practiced eye and will be able to provide practical input in his friends weddings.